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A Celebration of Life: November 5 1985 - January 24 2003


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12:14 AM on November 5, 2018

Happy Birthday, my sweet nephew. How I wish you were still here being the same amazing person you were as a child.


9:39 AM on January 24, 2018 

15 years since they left this earth and I still remember them all. Henry you would have been an amazing man and I am sure still a great friend. I remeber all the times we all went wondering through the city and through the parks till the late hours. Come spring I'll go feed the ducks.


3:44 PM on March 3, 2016

Some days I think back to when Max, Henry and I attended Jon's gym class at the Y in the morning. Even though more than a decade has passed

 I still remember us horsing around.

Titi Margi

7:37 PM on January 24, 2015 

My sweet nephew,

Loving you. Always! Remembering you. Forever!


9:36 AM on November 6, 2014 

[Kevin Urquhart]

Virginia--You are a wonderful mother and the strongest person I know. Henry (Poco) was and is very lucky have you. Happy birthday Henry!

Thank you Kevin, you are a dear friend!

Kevin Urquhart

3:05 PM on November 5, 2014 

Virginia--You are a wonderful mother and the strongest person I know. Henry (Poco) was and is very lucky have you. 

Happy birthday Henry!


8:56 AM on November 5, 2014 

Happy Birthday my darling son. Miss you so much. I visit the cemetery and lay beautiful for you. You are heart and sunshine. I'm grateful that you were my son. Have a blessed day in Heaven. Love you always!


Christina Carreras

10:10 AM on June 12, 2014 

I had the honor of meeting you on the train thanks to Alicia introducing us. And you were so open and honest with the experience of losing your son. Today I realized that GOD let you come into my past to remind me to be grateful for every moment you have and stop complaining about what you dont. Thank You for that I actually put a post-it note on my computer to remind me of this experience and treasure all the things that come your way good or bad. The note simply says Remember Henry. You are an awesome amazing lady thank you for sharing.

Titi Margi

10:32 PM on January 24, 2014 

You are always young and alive in my heart. I love you as I always have, my dear nephew.

Eric Tejeda

5:55 PM on January 24, 2014


Thinking of you on this date. You are in my prayers. God bless you and your family.


7:26 AM on January 24, 2014

Dear Henry, my beautiful son

Always thinking of you. It's eleven years and yet it seem like yesterday that I lost you. I always think of you with love but the day before the anniversary I always feel so much sadness and anger. Not anger at you but anger that you were taken from me. I wish I could see you, I wish I could have enjoyed more of you but I have to accept that this was God's plan. I know that I will see you again. I have to believe that because that thought is what makes me sane. That thought is what carries me through each day. Yes, it's eleven years but it still feels the same, the sadness of not having you with me, not seeing you grow up to a Man. That is what I miss the most. I love you so much and the words are becoming harder to express because if write how I feel, I don't think it will end. The words will go on forever, the missing of you will go forever, the love for you will go on forever. I know that God will lead me to you when my time comes because we were meant to be with each other in t he other life.

You are with me always, every second, every minute, every hour, every day. I love you always!

Mom of Henry "Poco"


Titi Margi

11:40 PM on January 23, 2014 

Thinking of you. Loving you always, my dear nephew. How I wish January 24, 2003 did not exist! We will only remember your wonderful life on 

the anniversary of the day your body, not your spirit and love, left us.


5:16 PM on January 9, 2014

Hi you guys,

My name is Jaimie and I just wanted to reach out to you to express my deepest condolences for your loss. You are a beautiful family and Henry was a very,very sweet boy. I came across this page as I was browsing YouTube and hit on the Rosie O'Donnell video. Me and my twin cousins, Ali & Ashley, are the 3 little girls in the pie eating contest with Henry that day ... i'm the little girl with blueberry face sitting next to him. I saw that you had uploaded the video and we wanted to reach out to Henry. I'll never forget that day with "hank" (as Rosie called him) what an amazing smile on that boy. Although we were only priveledged to meet Henry once, that day remains one that we will cherish always. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful family now & always.

God Bless,


Paul Acevedo

4:51 PM on December 5, 2013 

I 'm Poco's cousin and I was thinking about him and came across this beautiful site. He lives in the hearts of those who knew and loved him.

Titi Margi

12:28 AM on November 18, 2013

Thank you so much,

Marta Febos Figueroa says...

I am Pablo's mom. I never got a chance to tell you but I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you and your family.

Titi Margi

12:25 AM on November 18, 2013

My dear sweet always, thinking of you! You would have turned 28 years old...alas, you will be forever young in our hearts!

Marta Febos Figueroa

9:21 AM on November 17, 2013 

I am Pablo's mom. I never got a chance to tell you but I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you and your family.

Joseph Ruiz

6:03 AM on November 5, 2013

Happy Birthday, Poco.

Love you. Miss you.

Karen Jenkins

7:38 PM on November 3, 2013

Prayers and blessing to you and your Angel Henry. May God bless and comfort you.


12:51 AM on June 1, 2013 

Hello. Just joined this site and recognized how strong of a family Henry has. Even though I've never met him I believe that he was a great friend 

and family member.I wish the best for his family.


2:54 PM on May 13, 2013 

Hi Stacy,

Thank you for your sweet words. I am no longer sad on Mother's Day because I know that I will see Henry in my afterlife. Henry was and will always be the center of my heart. Thank again, for your kind words.

Virginia "Henry's Mom"

Hello my name is Stacey and my mom used to babysit for Max when he was a baby. She just found out about Max's death and I searched the internet for the names of everyone who died that day and found this website. I didn't read everything but from the things that I read Henry is loved and missed. Today is Mother's Day and I want to wish Henry's mom Happy Mother's Day. I felt the love you had for Henry in your words and actually started crying. Happy Mother's Day..

[/Stacey Brizan]

Stacey Brizan

10:26 AM on May 12, 2013

Hello my name is Stacey and my mom used to babysit for Max when he was a baby. She just found out about Max's death and I searched the internet for the names of everyone who died that day and found this website. I didn't read everything but from the things that I read Henry is loved and missed. Today is Mother's Day and I want to wish Henry's mom Happy Mother's Day. I felt the love you had for Henry in your words and actually started crying. 

 Happy Mother's Day..


8:45 PM on December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas to you my sweet son. I love and miss you so much especially Christmas. Christmas was always your favorite holiday. Say hi to Grandpa whom I miss also.

Love you always



11:28 PM on November 5, 2012

Titi Vigi,

As I read all the beautiful things you wrote for Henry, I have fond memories of who he was and your relationship with him. You were and are such an amazing mom and woman. You dedicated so much of yourself and that's why Henry was such a great kid. Thanks for the memories, they serve as an example for my relationship with my children. We love you!

Virginia says...

When you were born twenty seven years ago, November 5, 1985, I discovered a Mother’s love. When you were born, I learned that there could be no greater love than a child’s love for her mother. You were born on a cold rainy day, on Election Day to be exact. On that rainy day, Edward Koch became mayor but I held a higher seat, that of a mother. On November 4, I was at the office when I went to the hospital and discovered that I was to have a baby boy. Your father also Henry was at the bank and ran to the hospital. Of course, he was anxious since you were supposed to be born on December 10th. You were born at 10:15 AM on Election Day.

When you were born you came five weeks early. On that special day, November 5th I discovered the beautiful role of motherhood.

When you were born I learned what it was to become a mother. I discovered that as a mother I became number one for my son and he likewise was the most important person in my life. As Henry grew I learned so much from him. As a mother, I tried to instill values and love to my son. Parents are not perfect but our children are to us. I became a child again. I learned about prehistoric dinosaurs, I learned about science, I learned how to laugh with a child. We lived in Disney World. I experienced his happiness as a boy scout, altar boy, hockey skater and so much more. I had a wonderful life with you, Henry. On your birthdays, we had Julie the Clown; Uncle Bob dressed as Mickey Mouse and so much.

When you were born you were loved. Throughout your life I experienced your love as a mother. I felt that love right back from you. Though you were taken from me in 2003, I would never trade those years that I had with you.

Every birthday, I bring a beautiful wreath of falls flowers and you shine your light from the heaven as you always do. I sang Happy Birthday to you today and I didn’t cry, I smiled and laughed for all the great memories of love that you gave me. I told you about the 2012 Annual Worldwide Candle Lighting Services that I will attend on December 9th. At 7:00 PM, all families that have a lost a child will light a candle. In every country at 7:00 PM people will light that candle. Those candles will represent all the children that passed on. Most of all, it represents love from parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, everyone. I will hold a picture of me and you together and your name will be read aloud. We will pray, we will meet other people who have had that lost of a child. We will remember all the happiness but most of all remember when you were born.

Henry, Happy Birthday in heaven. Thank you for giving me love when I needed it. Thank you for the years that I had with you. Happy Birthday my sweet boy. I love you!

Love Mom 11-5-2012


11:23 PM on November 5, 2012

Happy birthday in heaven! Time flies by and I often wonder where it goes. I have 2 kids now. Having a boy and a girl is amazing. I know the love your mother has for you since I am a mother too. I see the baby pic on this website, what a beautiful smile!! Wish I could see you again, you are always missed and truly loved! I wish Bianca could have met you, her big cousin!! You always loved science, reading, and were so intelligent. Bianca is on that track =) Luv u cuz

Love your cousin,



8:18 PM on November 5, 2012 

Dear sweet Henry: happy, happy birthday in heaven, always adored and always remembered! I will never forget the special boy and then young man you brought so much wonder and joy to so many...thank you, my dear Poco!


10:42 PM on November 4, 2012

When you were born twenty seven years ago, November 5, 1985, I discovered a Mother’s love. When you were born, I learned that there could be no greater love than a child’s love for her mother. You were born on a cold rainy day, on Election Day to be exact. On that rainy day, Edward Koch became mayor but I held a higher seat, that of a mother. On November 4, I was at the office when I went to the hospital and discovered that I was to have a baby boy. Your father also Henry was at the bank and ran to the hospital. Of course, he was anxious since you were supposed to be born on December 10th. You were born at 10:15 AM on Election Day.

When you were born you came five weeks early. On that special day, November 5th I discovered the beautiful role of motherhood.

When you were born I learned what it was to become a mother. I discovered that as a mother I became number one for my son and he likewise was the most important person in my life. As Henry grew I learned so much from him. As a mother, I tried to instill values and love to my son. Parents are not perfect but our children are to us. I became a child again. I learned about prehistoric dinosaurs, I learned about science, I learned how to laugh with a child. We lived in Disney World. I experienced his happiness as a boy scout, altar boy, hockey skater and so much more. I had a wonderful life with you, Henry. On your birthdays, we had Julie the Clown; Uncle Bob dressed as Mickey Mouse and so much.

When you were born you were loved. Throughout your life I experienced your love as a mother. I felt that love right back from you. Though you were taken from me in 2003, I would never trade those years that I had with you.

Every birthday, I bring a beautiful wreath of falls flowers and you shine your light from the heaven as you always do. I sang Happy Birthday to you today and I didn’t cry, I smiled and laughed for all the great memories of love that you gave me. I told you about the 2012 Annual Worldwide Candle Lighting Services that I will attend on December 9th. At 7:00 PM, all families that have a lost a child will light a candle. In every country at 7:00 PM people will light that candle. Those candles will represent all the children that passed on. Most of all, it represents love from parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, everyone. I will hold a picture of me and you together and your name will be read aloud. We will pray, we will meet other people who have had that lost of a child. We will remember all the happiness but most of all remember when you were born.

Henry, Happy Birthday in heaven. Thank you for giving me love when I needed it. Thank you for the years that I had with you. Happy Birthday my sweet boy. I love you!

Love Mom 11-5-2012

Titi margi

11:00 PM on October 19, 2012

I just smiled, thinking of you. Saw Michael Jackson's Bad video and remembered how much you loved his music 

when you were young. Henry, how I miss you!

Virginia Badillo

7:59 PM on April 1, 2012

Just thinking of you and loving you

Titi Margi

9:45 PM on January 24, 2012

Remembering four boys whose lives touched and were lost forever nine years ago: Henry, Max, Carlo, and Andrew! Remembering my adored nephew, are always loved, always thought of, and forever missed. I hope you are riding on moonbeams and sending us your light! I pray that one day we will meet again!


9:21 AM on January 24, 2012 

Henry, on your 9th Anniversary n Heaven thank you for all the beautiful memories and love you gave me. May Goed lead me to you in my dreams and may you look over me. May God let you hold my hand while I sleep. I love you forever and ever.

Always in my heart

Forever Mom


Joseph Ruiz

6:23 AM on January 24, 2012

Dear Henry. It's so hard to believe that it's already been 9 years since you were stolen from your family. I think about you, often. 

Missing you always. God bless you and your Mother.

- Uncle Joey


10:24 PM on January 23, 2012

Another year Tomm will never forget miss You guys always will..... We advance together in spirit always

Titi Margi

8:04 PM on December 26, 2011

Dear Henry:

I thought of you yesterday and smiled at the memory of you at Christmas! Thank you for the treasure that was your life! Merry 

Christmas in the heavens! I love you!


11:25 PM on December 24, 2011

Dear Henry,

As Christmas comes your spirit and love make me strong without you on this earth. My lights are for you to see. I love and miss you every day and especially Christmas. Merry Christmas in Heaven. I decorate a special tree on your grave so you can it from Heaven. Merry Christmas my baby, I love you


travis knight

5:29 PM on December 11, 2011

CONTACT info Jt da r knight on facebook... Ma its travis from holy family hope u remember me... would give anything to hear ur voice.... 

So sorry for ur lost... n U are always in my Prays... reaching out...

travis knight

4:07 PM on December 11, 2011

i just wanted to say, i seen henry on the train maybe a month b4 he went missing... n us being in two different worlds, we never even stopped to speak, i woke this morning thinking just how short life could be.... I went to HFS with henry... n he was a great friend.... i always wanted the drive henry had... but i just want to say, gone but never forgotten... LOVE n MISS u HENRY

Joseph Ruiz

10:05 AM on November 24, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving, Poco. You may not be with us physically, but you will be there in our hearts.


2:33 PM on November 6, 2011

Dear Henry:Happy 26 th Birthday in Heaven.You are so missed.God bless everyone you loved and cared for.

Joseph Ruiz

5:47 PM on November 5, 2011

Happy Birthday, Henry. Wishing you were here.

Titi Margi

1:35 PM on November 5, 2011 

Happy Birthday in heaven, my sweet angel, Henry! 26 years ago today you came into our lives and brought us immeasurable joy and the treasure of your forever love. Although you have been gone almost 9 years, we continue to hold that love close to our hearts and time has done nothing to diminish our memories of you! We love you and miss you!


12:07 AM on November 5, 2011

Happy Birthday to my beautiful son, Henry.

You are always in my heart,


Richard Skeete

4:31 PM on September 7, 2011

Very nice, didn't no you could write so well,

Virginia Badillo "Mom"

2:14 PM on September 1, 2011

I love you. You are my everything.

Love Mom


Margaret Ruiz "Aunt"

1:06 PM on August 14, 2011

My booger boy, my sweet nephew, Henry: Just thinking of you. I love you and always will always be a big piece of my heart and I will treasure you all the days of my life. Love, Titl Margi

Luz Arroyo

10:30 PM on August 12, 2011

My dear Virigina I have read all the life of your wonderful son. I am so proud of you the way you have found a bit of peace. It is not easy but just thinking he is with God, it can give you the comfort of him being safe. I will have you and your son in my heart and mind all the time because my dear friend it was so nice seeing you again. I know what it is to be a mother so I know the hurt you will always have. But you must be proud to have given him all the love of a mother and that you are still giving it to him . Que Dios te Bendiga a ti y a Poco.

Mary-Ellen Hill-Motter

11:20 PM on August 10, 2011

All I can say is BEAUTIFUL! It brought me to tears just looking and watching the wonderful pictures and videos of your life together. I know that he is truly missed in your lives. I know that he is in Heaven and so happy with this tribute to him. May God bless you and your family.

Love Mary-Ellen


11:03 PM on August 10, 2011 

This site really is touching. The love & dedication you have for your son is so evident. I pray that God continues to pour strength over you as well as endless amounts of love. You are a very strong woman & may God bless you always. The memory of Henry will live on forever.


7:31 PM on August 7, 2011

...such a beautiful site and wonderful memories.

i'm sorry for your loss and the pain.

~ Steven

Titi Margi

11:05 PM on June 4, 2011

Dear Henry:

Thinking of special moments with you! Remembering all the wonderful hugs you gave me and missing them. Love, Titi Margi

Titi Margi

10:19 AM on May 19, 2011

My sweet boy: .I remember this day so clearly, the day God let us find you and put you to rest. You will never be out of my heart and I miss you every day. Thank you for the memories that bring laughter and joy to every one whose life you touched! Love Titi Margi

Mom (Virginia)

10:30 PM on May 18, 2011

What have I not said that my heart says every day. I love and miss you so much. Shine your light upon me and I will be there.

Love Mom


Titi Margi

11:13 PM on May 7, 2011

Thinking of you, sweet Henry! Look down on your mom tomorrow...she will feel your love as strongly as the day she first laid eyes on you.


9:17 PM on April 24, 2011 

Happy Easter to my beautiful son in heaven. I love and miss you. I hope you like the tulips that I planted for you. The sun was shining as always.

Love Mom



11:00 PM on February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine my sweet baby. I know that in heaven you are feeling so much love from God. I know that your love and our love is forever.

Love Mom

Susana Maria cousin

2:02 AM on January 31, 2011

My thoughts and prayers and love to our familia and our angels. Our angels always are a reminder of all the greatness in life and all we overcome in it. They make us stronger, better and more faithful people. I am pleased to have met cousin Henry even if in spirit. His life is worth remembering and honoring always. Much love and prayers and thanks for sharing this wonderful tribute with me. I am sure he is dancing in heaven with Mami and Linda and all our angels.

God bless,

Susana Maria :D

^i^ Margarita and ^i^ Linda Anne Regan

Fr. Tom Lynch

12:09 PM on January 25, 2011


In revealing so much of your pain and prayers, you also inspire and help many people.

I hope you are well and that your mom is well. I look forward to catching up some day. It has been too long.

Be assured of my prayers for you.

I was at the cemetery awhile back and a gentleman saw me waiting for a funeral. He asked me if I could come and say some prayers over his son's grave (Across the road where Henry's grave is). We prayed together for his son of ten years old. I then went over and prayed for Henry.

How the time passes but not the pain.

Take care good friend,



11:16 PM on January 24, 2011

Dear Vigi,

I know Henry has left behind a thousand moments that will live in your heart forever. Please know at this difficult time, you and your family 

are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love, Linda

Chanardai Sookdeo-Ruiz

7:11 PM on January 24, 2011

Remembering Henry and Vigi on this sad anniversary. Rest in Peace, Poco.

-Auntie Devika

marie valentinetti corradino

4:06 PM on January 24, 2011

I stopped in for a visit today in memory of your dear son Henry and his friends. I hope today will be gentle for you. I will keep you and your family in 

my prayers. Love Marie

Joseph Ruiz

1:21 PM on January 24, 2011

Thinking of you today, and missing you more than ever.

Katherine Mendez

10:34 AM on January 24, 2011

Hey Poco I will have you in my heart always.I am very proud of your mom she is the best and how she loves you.I know from way up in the sky you always look after her.Virginia I am very happy that you are doing well Is like you say you never forget the best moments in life.I will have you poco and the rest of the family in my prayers.Love always Kathy


9:25 AM on January 24, 2011

Today I went to Mass and prayed for the souls of my beloved son, Henry and his friends Max, Carlo and Andrew. I will be strong; I will use the love that I have as my strength. I will use the memories of Henry as my shield and if I chose to cry, it will be tears of love, tears that I had a time to love him and that I will be with him one day. Henry, you were the best thing that ever happened to me! I love you forever.


6:10 AM on January 24, 2011

Always and forever never will forget

Titi Margi

11:06 PM on January 23, 2011

My dear, sweet, adored nephew:

Tomorrow is the anniversary of the day you left us forever--January 24, 2003--in a tragic accident. We will spend the day celebrating your life and remembering all the big and little things that made you so special! I will laugh and cry at the memories that are so real and present in my heart! 

I will love you forever and a day!

Dave Richards

3:56 PM on January 8, 2011

What a beautiful tribute for your son.

I found your page when searching for similar stories to the one I share with you. I, too, lost my daughter on November 19, 2009. It was an accident - one moment she was here, the next moment she was gone.

Your website is full of love and hope. Please continue to honor your son's memory as we do our daughter's memory.

Dave Richards

Titi Margi

10:42 PM on December 25, 2010

Remembering you today, my adored nephew! Did you see the beautiful lights your mother set up in memory of you? They were almost as bright as the star that is you in the heavens! Merry Christmas! Loving you always!


9:37 PM on November 27, 2010


This Thanksgiving and forever I will always be grateful that I was your Mother and you were my son. Remembering that Thanksgiving was always special to you because of the food but most of all sitting all together and remembering all the pranks that we did as kids.

I love you



You are always in my heart.

Titi Margi

10:29 AM on November 26, 2010

Henry, my sweet: I thought about you yesterday and, just like every Thanksgiving Day over the past 25 years, I gave special thanks that you were such a great part of my life! You would have been so proud of your mom...she cooked dinner and it was absolutely the best....I teased her and told her she got Grandma's cooking gene...I knew you would have been enjoying the meal while talking about something you read about or heard on the news and we would have been laughing all the while! I miss that about you! Loving you always!

Dorothy Gines

11:44 AM on November 9, 2010

Oh Vigi, when I read your new birthday letter to Poco, I cried. I cried because I know you still morn him, but I am not at all surprise that you do. As the great mother that you still are, I do not expect anything else. You were a great mother to Poco when he was here on earth and now that he is in Heaven you are even better. Your tribute to Poco is evidence that you have not indulged yourself in self pity but you have used your pain to created this astounding tribute to your loving son; and only an amazing person can do that. For my own selfish reasons, I wish I could read that you are not hurting anymore and for that I apologize, its just that I love you so much that it hurts me to know you are still hurting. So you are right about people that never lost a child, they think there is "closure" and that you should move on - but I think its just easier for them to think you are healed and not hurting. I know for me that’s where it comes from. I wish with all my heart and soul that Poco was still here on Earth!! I feel honored to have known him, so I can only imagine (as you do) what an amazing man he was going to be on Earth. He must be remarkable in Heaven doing God’s work. I love Poco and you dearly. May God Bless you my beloved and dearest friend.


11:13 AM on November 8, 2010

What you have written on your website is very beautiful and moving. I wish you all the best. I can only imagine how difficult life is without Henry especially around his birthday.

God Bless.




9:46 AM on November 8, 2010

Dear Vigi,

I know Henry's birthday was a very sad day for you. It broke my heart when I saw you cried. I'm sorry you have to go through this. 

 You and your beautiful family are always in my thoughts and prayers.




6:27 PM on November 7, 2010


Thanks so much for sharing you heart and your son with all of us. Henry was a bright and an amazing young man.The special days of holidays, birthdays must be so hard and I am always amazed at your strength and character on Henry's 25th birthday.

Prayers to you, Henry and Mama Ana - Pat


2:55 PM on November 7, 2010

Virginia:My heart goes out to you with my love ,on what should have been Henry's 25 th birthday celebration.I consider myself very lucky to have married into your family ,and thusly to have known Henry.Henry was a truly wonderful ,funny,warm,supremely intellgent and interesting young man .And he was only17. In looking back he seemed much older ,as he was wise and mature in worldly ways ,beyond those 17 years.

I know he is watching over you ,and his grandma ,and Ti Ti Margi ,and all who he loved,watching from heaven ,with his grandpa Tony.

Though your heart will always be broken,Henry would want you to be happy ,as not only did you give him life ,but you were his best friend, and an incredible inspiration and wonderful role model for him.

I have never been a parent ,but I do know very well the loss of loved ones ,and what it is to lose a loved one well before their time ,so although I can only begin to fathom your pain I cannot know it ,but I do know it must be the worst feeling a human can have.

My prayers are for you and Henry to reunited one day in heaven ,and though I am not religious as you ,visiting the cemetary as I do and fairly often, provides me with comfort and a deep feeling that we will again be with our departed loved ones, and so I picture Henry recognizing and running to hug his mom ,in heaven, when it is your turn.

Rest in peace Henry ,so loved and missed ,a great future not to be,the world a loser for it.Continue to watch over your beloved mom,and for you Virginia,knowing that giving birth to Henry ,a life changer for you, will in the memories of him ,lead to smiles ,among the tears from heaven.

God bless both of you.Love,Lee


10:24 PM on November 6, 2010

Dear Virginia,

I am thinking of you so strongly today, as tomorrow I will be

traveling. Please know I am holding you in my heart tomorrow. I hope

the cemetery doesn't look too bad, in case you go. I gave up after

they mowed right over all my plantings in the Spring and again cut

down the bush. Just awful.

Warmest wishes,



10:22 PM on November 6, 2010

Thank you for sending me your tribute to Henry. You speak for all of us - I sometimes think it is harder these days. The season change is always sad.

Love to you and your family. I think of you often.


Sandra Tyralla

10:19 PM on November 6, 2010

So beautiful!!!! I’m so sorry you have to go through this, Virginia. I am thinking of you and Henry, as is Analisa. And so is Neil, even though he never met Henry; but he can tell from all the love that surrounds you and Henry what a great person he must have been. It’s incredible that 7 years have gone by. I admire your strength soooo much, but I know that some days are harder than others and today must be a really difficult one to go through. I wish I were next to you right now so I could give you a great big hug and have a good cry with you and then comfort you and remind you that God is all knowing and good, even if sometimes we don’t understand his reasons.

I love you so much. Be well.

Please also send Mama Ana and your family my love.


Fr. Thomas Lynch

10:17 PM on November 6, 2010

Thanks Virginia,

Beautifully written and expressed. I will save it for people who are experiencing everlasting mourning.

I prayed for Henry when I was at St. Raymond's recently. I had a funeral there about two weeks ago.

Hang in there and thanks for the powerful message,

Love Fr. Tom


10:15 PM on November 6, 2010

So true IS absolutely everlasting mourning....and only we can know this. I reached a stage quite a long time ago, where I knew for certain that this was as good as it was going to get for me, and I was right.

I too, get on with my life, and I have actually achieved some things, but the sense of loss I feel and the emptiness and longing for Daniel never change. As you say, this is just something we have to endure silently.

Thank you for keeping me in the loop...

Much love and take good care

Penny xxx

Titi Margi

9:05 PM on November 6, 2010

We went to the cemetery today. Your mom left a beautiful heart-shaped wreath by your grave. And she was right, the sun broke through the skies for that moment and we knew it was you smiling from the heavens.


10:39 AM on November 5, 2010

On this special day of your birth I pray that God will lead me to you one day. You are so missed and loved. Happy Birthday in heaven which would have been your 25th birthday.

So Henry on this birthday, I embrace you, I cry for you, I love you.

Always in my heart,


Titi Margi

8:15 AM on November 5, 2010

My dear sweet Henry: 25 years ago today you came into our lives and changed us forever. You brought us so much joy and left us with beautiful memories. You were and will continue to be my heartstrings! Happy Birthday in heaven! I will love you until the end of time.

Love, your aunt who misses you each and every day

Claudia Ewers

3:03 PM on November 3, 2010 

Virginia, Thinking of you and your family, especially this week, realizing that it's Henry's 25th birthday on Friday......your beautiful and wonderful son~forever in your heart. I hope his day passes peacefully for you.

God bless!


4:20 PM on September 9, 2010


There's not a day that I don't think of you. I miss you so much but i feel sometimes that you're with me and that even makes me sad because I cannot touch you. I lost something the other day and I traced my steps of everywhere that I was at that day and I prayed to please let me find it. Donnie, your uncle found it in your garden. Thank you for that sign. I needed your presence that day. Thank you for being my son.

Love you always


Titi Margi

9:56 PM on August 8, 2010

Henry- I imagine you skateboarding across the stars, listening to the music of angels, and looking down on us from the skies. I have been thinking of you, much more than usual, in the last few days. Imagining what could have been, imagining you grown and on your way. How I wish time would have stopped at 9:57 pm that night. How I miss you!

Uncle Joey & Auntie Devika

6:35 PM on May 29, 2010

Hi Poco. I'm sorry that I'm late in posting this. I forgot my password and I had created the original account with an invalid email. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you, as I often do. We miss you so very much, and we allways will. - Uncle Joey

Titi Margi

10:57 PM on May 19, 2010 

Sweet Henry---

Thinking of you today. I saw a star and knew it was you. You are shining in the heavens, dear nephew. . Loving you always!


9:07 PM on May 19, 2010

Today, seven years ago you came home to me. Seven years ago, I lost part of my heart with you but I still have so much love that you 

will always be part of me. I love you more....

Love Mom


Titi Margi

8:07 PM on May 9, 2010

My sweet nephew in heaven...

We honor your mother today for letting us share in your life and love. How I remember all the many Mother's Days she celebrated with such pride and love! We will always remember you. You are in our hearts and will remain there forever!


11:05 AM on May 9, 2010

Henry my darling,

Though you are not with me today my heart is full of your love that will last with me forever until I meet with you again.

Love Mom



1:37 AM on February 22, 2010


I'll never forget how nice you were to me when we were young. Missed seeing you in HFS and around the block. 

Always remebering you and how great of a person you were. RIP


11:22 AM on January 26, 2010 

Thinking of you, Vigi. God Bless Henry and God Bless you!


9:27 AM on January 26, 2010 


9:46 PM on January 25, 2010 


My heart goes out to you and Henry on this day.



8:13 AM on January 25, 2010 

continued- couldsomehow change it all but I [we ]cannnot.Rest in peace in heaven and know that you brightened our worlds 

so much from your short and miraculous stay on earth.

Uncle Lee


8:09 AM on January 25, 2010 

Henry:Finishing my below thought as your aunt Margi thinks me a fool for hitting the wrong button and accidentally sending the below message before its time.

Seven years ago should have been some seventy years before your time,and we miss you so much and my heart goes out so much to your incredible mom ,aunt Margi and your grandma,and I wish as I do for the others who have entered heaven who I loved that I


8:03 AM on January 25, 2010 

Henry,it is amazing to me that 7 years have already passed by since we heard about that terrible night. So this is for you and your friends Max, Carlo,and Andrew who entered heaven that night ,and left this world so much sadder. This is for your incredible mom ,and your Aunt Margi ,and your grandparents ,and uncles and so many others who loved you so. I remember a handsome young man open to all life provided, intelligent, happy, so loving and having all possibilities in front of him ,with the real potential for great things. Now ,in heaven with your grandpa , and friends and animal who you loved ,and looking down on us. As I know you do take care of your mom and aunt and grandparents and dad from heaven. W

Marie Valentinetti Corradino

11:11 PM on January 24, 2010 

Hi Virginia, I just wanted to tell you that I have had you and your dear son Henry in my thoughts and prayers today. I can't believe seven years have passed. I hope today was gentle for you. I think of you and your family often. God Bless you all. Love Marie

Nidia Rodriguez

5:12 PM on January 24, 2010 

Hi Virginia,

Your words are an inspiration to us all. God bless you!


Virginia Badillo

2:39 PM on January 24, 2010 

Henry my sweet beloved son,

You were a blessing to me when you were born. You will always live within me forever. I love and miss you

Always with love,



Titi Margi

11:54 AM on January 24, 2010 

My dear much loved and always remembered nephew, Henry

Time passes by but our memories of the boy and young man who brought joy to our lives will never dim. Seven years ago, you, Max, Carlo and Andrew were tragically lost to us and our worlds got smaller and less bright. However, the heavens gained four stars that day that will shine into eternity. We love you.

Your aunt, Margaret

January 24, 2010

Joseph Ruiz

8:35 AM on January 24, 2010 

Dear Poco. It's so hard to believe that's it's been 7 years since those very dark moments. Time may have faded, but your memory will always linger. 

Always in our thoughts, always in our prayers. My eternal love to you and Virginia. - Uncle Joey


11:32 AM on January 15, 2010


It's closing in on 7 years now and I still can't believe you're gone. I saw you only weeks before outside of the 96th Street train station and then found out later you were one of the 4 boys lost off City Island. I will always have fantastic memories of us hanging out in the L.E.S. You were different from many of the other people we knew, you had drive, you were intelligent, with a stellar sense of humor and great ideas... I loved it when you made it to concerts or just meeting up along St. Marks. I would have loved to see what you would have become - you were destined for great things. Rest in peace, darling and know that you also rest in the hearts and minds of your friends.


Virginia Badillo

9:17 AM on January 12, 2010

Dear Dolores,

Thank you for your beautiful letter regarding my son, Henry Anthony. This January 24th, will be seven years since my son has left this earth but his heart, our memories and life is alive. May people have felt the same lost that I did because Henry was a kind, loving and beautiful boy. When people visit his website, they commonly state how beautiful yet sad the site is. Beautiful because it so full of love with memories of his life but sad because it was so short. Yet, I feel Henry everyday of my life. Some people may think that I haven’t gotten over his death or had closure which is a word that I despise. I will never have closure with the death of my son but what I do have now is peace in my heart and mind. I know that Henry is with God and He reminds me everyday that I had a beautiful son who loved his mother and family more than words can say. As time passes by there are less people that visit the site but that is common. It is always touching when people that I never met feel the love that we express on this site.

I feel Henry all the time. When I visit his grave to bring flowers, whether it’s raining or cloudy the sun always shines directly over me. I use to tell people that and they would smile but I knew they didn’t believe me until they would come with me and see for themselves. I do little things like plant flowers, bring balloons for his birthday, and decorate for Christmas on his grave. I know his grave only contains his bones and that his body has risen to Heaven but this is last physical place on earth that I can come to.

I want to thank you for your kind words and hope your children stay safe and you need not to apologize for acknowledging his death. May God protect and bless your family.


Virginia Ruiz Badillo

Henry’s Mom

Titi Margi

10:36 PM on January 10, 2010 

Henry--Strange how people who never knew you, in life, have now discovered you after your death. I feel so sad that they never got to know the Henry, the Poco, the wonder that was you. Yes, Mrs. Reyes, we thank you for your kind words. We wish you had known our sweet boy. He brought such joy to our lives in the 17 years, 2 months, and 19 days he was with us. We try not to focus on our sadness but instead, we seek to celebrate his life. That is what had meaning. That is what he left with us.

Mrs. Reyes

11:14 PM on January 9, 2010 

I was in a living room in a home of a couple who have in the past two years have become close aquaintances. It was time to leave as many times before that, I'd always looked around. But today was diferent. Something was calling me to a particular area of my couple friends living room. There was the most curious but beautiful painting like as if calling upon me to gaze upon it. I just could not take my eyes off this painting, and as my friend Henry was talking to my husband in front of me, I just had to ask about this painting. Only then did I find out about the tragedy of this most beautiful young man who lost his life in such a horrible way, then to only remember reading articles several years ago and feeling such sorrow for the families, then to realize that my friend was the father of this young boy. I looked at him, and even though it's been several years, could not help but to feel such sorrow and cried right then and there and hugged my friend Henry, and told him how sorry I was for his loss. Upon arriving home, I immediately researched the tragic incident on my computer, to find this web site and to only cry yet even more. As a mother of four with a son twice deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan, and as a mother, you have to prepare yourself for the worst, and hope for the best. Even still, I couldn't even fathom the much pain and sorrow this family has endured. My apologies for being several years late but please know that there are people as myself whom wish you comfort and maybe just maybe it was your son calling out to me to tell you how much he misses you too and loves you so, and just wants to let you know that he is still with you and always will be.




11:10 PM on December 28, 2009 

Thank You Leaf for remembering Henry. You don't know how much that means to me. God bless you.


Henry's Mom

Henry;s Mom

11:09 PM on December 28, 2009

Leaf says...

Another holiday another years almost at a close Henry I constantly look to you and the others for guidance 

I will never forget. Warmest thoughts to your family.


10:52 PM on December 27, 2009

Another holiday another years almost at a close Henry I constantly look to you and the others for guidance 

I will never forget. Warmest thoughts to your family.

Virginia "Mom"

9:09 PM on December 26, 2009 


I missed you so much yesterday on Christmas Day. the lights, the christmas tree and all the decorations were for you. 

 I visited you t the cemetary and of course the light shone upon me. I love and miss you

Love Mom


Titi Margi

11:19 PM on December 25, 2009

My dear sweet nephew: Missing you today. The lights in the heavens are always brighter than those here on earth because you 

are there looking over us. Merry Christmas!

Loving you always.

Joseph Ruiz

9:57 AM on December 25, 2009 

Merry Christmas in heaven, Poco. We'll think about & miss you today. - Uncle Joey.

Joseph Ruiz

5:43 PM on November 27, 2009 

Hi Poco. Didn't have a chance to visit yesterday, but I just wanted to stop by and say hello. Another holiday without you has come and gone. You may not have been there in body, but you were there in our hearts. Loving you always- Uncle Joey

Titi Margi

12:26 PM on November 26, 2009

Dearest Henry,

Once again, it's Thanksgiving Day and you will not be sitting at the dinner table offering up one of your 

insightful or funny observations about family, life, or yourself.

We will never forget you, though. We will sit down today and remember you and thank God that you were such a great part of our lives. We will also remember and be thankful that you live in our hearts every single minute of every single day.

Loving you always, Titi Margi

Virginia 'Mom"

9:42 PM on November 22, 2009 


I miss you so much. This time of season is always for me because it is the beginning of the end of your life. I try and pray thaqt 

I remember only the good times of our lives.

Remember my love is forever,



7:01 PM on November 6, 2009 

Dear Henry [POCO] Happy Birthday in heaven ,on what would have been your 24 th.

I met you at your grandparents house some 20 years ago ,and you were of course jumping all over the place, sliding down the bannister, and creating your own special havoc,and you were the center of your mother's life,as well as TiTi Margi's ,and your grandparents,and everyone else who loved you so.

I found you to be fun,loving,caring ,and later as a teenager very smart,outgoing,generous ,and very popular.

We miss you very much ,and when you left this material world it saddened all of us.

My heart goes out in particular to your incredible mom who loves you so,and it is for her, as well as your wonderful grandma Ana,TiTi Margi ,and everyone else who you touched and loved you, and misses you, that I write from my heart, about a terrific young man who left us way way too early.

So rest in heaven with your grandpa Antonio who I know is looking out for you,as you look out for your mom,

and know that we love you and miss you, and always will.

Love,Uncle Lee

Wendoly Castro

10:13 AM on November 6, 2009

Happy Birthday Poco! You would have been 24 years old on this earth yesterday but instead I am sure you had an awesome celebration up in heaven with God and his Angels. The Lord had his reasons to take you up with Him at such a young age so I trust and have faith in Him that His decision had a great purpose. We miss you always and my thoughts and prayers are with you Vigi, Mama Ana, Margi, Joey, Danny and the rest of the family. Love always, Wendoly


9:43 PM on November 5, 2009 

As always, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am with you in spirit today, and wish you and Henry love and peace.



9:41 PM on November 5, 2009

Dear Virginia,

I am thinking of you today with sorrow in my heart for what it must be

for you. I am thinking of Henry and holding you close.

With best wishes to all your beautiful family, especially Margaret and

your mother.


Fr. Thomas Lynch

9:40 PM on November 5, 2009 

Thank you.

I always love reading your beautiful expressions of a mother's love.

I agree with you 10000000 percent about the word doesn't happen and nor should we invent it to be so.

Hang in there today, I will be praying for you.

Henry is in my prayers and thoughts as well.



Titi Margi

8:10 PM on November 5, 2009


As the years pass, I think of what might have been. I think of the greatness that you might have achieved. I think of all the love you still had to give. I think of all the things you never experienced. For that, I feel sad. Nonetheless, my little booger boy, you will always be here, in my heart, still giving that love. Still reminding us of all the good and wonderful memories you left with us.

I remember your birth and the feeling of looking at you, so tiny and perfect, and knowing that God had given our corner of the earth the wonder that grew to become your parent's adored son, your grandparent's cherished grandchild, and your cousins', aunts', and uncles' Poco.

Happy birthday in heaven, my dear, sweet, Henry.

Loving you always, Titi Margi

November 5, 2009


7:52 PM on November 5, 2009 


It always melts my heart when I see your beautiful tribute to Henry. Your mother misses you very much as do we all. Happy Birthday Henry!


Eric and Maria Tejeda


5:40 PM on November 5, 2009


I am thinking about you today on Henry's special day. I know you miss Henry and he is in your heart. 

 I am glad you could spend the day doing special things in his memory.



5:24 PM on November 5, 2009

Happy Birthday to my special angel in heaven. When I visited you today the sun came out and gave me a special gift.

Thank you for letting me know that you are ok I love you so much and miss you more.

Love you always,



3:41 PM on November 5, 2009

Dear Vigi - I'm thinking of you on this special day. Your love for Henry is so beautiful and always touches my heart.

Happy Birthday Henry!

Love, Linda

Joseph Ruiz

1:59 PM on November 5, 2009

Happy Birthday, Poco. Loving & Missing you.- Uncle Joey


12:40 PM on November 5, 2009 

Virginia, your tribute to Henry is so beautiful and loving.

It just makes my heart ache to know that the world lost such a fine young man, with so much potential to do good.

Thinking of you today and always.

Claudia Ewers

11:56 AM on November 5, 2009

Dear Virginia~I actually posted here yesterday, but I also returned to Henry's memorial site this morning to find the lovely birthday tribute you left for him.

Whenever I read your words, you give me so much inspiration as I also move forward in my own grief journey. Henry would be so very proud of you. He is so very proud of you in spirit....I hope this is a peaceful and love-filled day for you. You are obviously actively contributing to those loving and peace-filled feelings all-around you today. I also know that Henry is forever with you in your heart...... Love, Claudia

.....With love, Claudia 

Niurka Castro

9:46 AM on November 5, 2009

Happy Birthday Henry. I know you must have had a hand in the Yankees winning last night, thank you! lol This morning I was able to witness how God works in mysterious ways because as I stepped onto the train and sat down, I looked up and saw a young boy that looked so much like you did when you were 13-14 years old. I even nudged my sister to look at him and she agreed. We will always miss our dear friend Poco.

Love Always,


Claudia Ewers

10:58 PM on November 4, 2009

Virginia~I've been thinking about you this week and remembering that is Henry's birthday tomorrow. I hope this time has been passing with a semblance of peace for you with the knowledge that Henry is always with you in spirit. I hope also that you'll find ways to celebrate his wonderful life on his birthday that will actually bring you JOY in your remembrance of your wonderful son.

Sending my best wishes and loving thoughts from Oregon at this time, Claudia Ewers

Titi Margi

9:48 PM on October 6, 2009

Henry-you are with Granddad in heaven. He has been gone now 16 years ago today. We miss you both.

Joseph Ruiz

3:25 PM on October 3, 2009 

"You were born in my loving embrace. The most wonderful gift that God had sent to me. You left life at too young an age, at the beginning of many great things. All the dreams and hopes of your future gone with you to your resting place." - (Vivian Le at funeral for daughter Anne Le)

Titi Margi

6:32 PM on September 26, 2009 

Henry--Thinking of you today and remembering your voice and smile. I miss you, Booger.


8:59 PM on September 7, 2009

You are always in my heart, mind and soul. When I need strength I visit you and your light shines upon me and than 

I know you are okay and you make me smile :), that you are in the hands of our Lord.



Julie Chau

3:01 AM on August 4, 2009 

I am so glad to have come across this page. I was blessed enough to have known Henry through Holy Family, GRF, and Science. I still think of him all the time when I walk through the neighborhood and how we used to compete over who had the best science projects. Of all the classmates that went on to Science, he was my closest friend. I still remember freshman year in HS when we took the bus/subway together and talked about the transition between elementary school and high school. Thank you for making this. 

Virginia Badillo "Mom"

10:12 PM on July 1, 2009

You are always on my mind. I was watching a video of you in my office and it made me laugh. You gave me such joy. I missed that joy. :)

I love you,



LeAsia Johnson

4:10 PM on June 12, 2009

I just wanted to let you know that your son seems like a wonderful person who i would have loved to meet. I am soo sorry for your loss.

 May you and your family stay strong.


2:51 PM on June 9, 2009

Virginia, This is a beautiful way to keep Henry's memory alive. Thank you for sharing with us.


11:55 PM on June 3, 2009

Virginia, You've created a beautiful monument to Henry. I'm so sorry for ur loss. E

Titi Margi

8:24 PM on May 22, 2009

Henry--Remembering the day now over 6 years ago when the same waters that took you from us brought you back to be laid to rest. 

You are at peace, my dear sweet boy, and everlasting in our hearts and love.

Claudia Ewers 

2:17 AM on May 20, 2009

Virginia~You and your precious son, Henry, are in my thoughts at this time. Just wanted to let you know that and that I will be burning a candle to honor his memory on the evening of the 20th. May you feel his loving spiritual presence with you deeply at this time. Love, Claudia (Mike's mom/DSN member)

Uncle Joey

5:56 AM on May 19, 2009

"May you build a ladder to the stars, And climb on every rung. May your heart always be joyful, And your song always be sung. 

May you stay Forever Young." - Bob Dylan

Karen Ligtermoet

9:51 AM on May 11, 2009

Virginia, thank you for posting your beautiful poem to Henry. It was truly uplifting to read. These days are always tinged with so 

much sadness and your lovely words have helped lighted that a little. May hugs, Ka ren, Sam's mum DSN

Titi Margi

9:11 PM on May 10, 2009

My dear strong and courageous sister, Virginia You will always be one of the best mothers I know. Henry will be here with us always, carried in our hearts. 

God may have taken him away too soon, I know, but He left you and us with a lifetime of memories.

Diana Riddle

8:58 PM on May 10, 2009

Virginia, What a wonderful poem. What a wonderful tribute to Henry. Just looking at his picture he was a Beautiful Boy. Thanks for Sharing! Diana DSN


8:48 PM on May 10, 2009

I have been thinking of you on this Mother's Day and I know this must be a hard week for you. Just know that your friends are here for you.

Uncle Joey

7:57 AM on May 10, 2009

Dear Vigi. Another Mother's Day has come since you lost a piece of your heart and your soul. It seems like only yesterday and yet so long ago. I know how bittersweet this day wil feel for you. It may count for much, but the pain you carry today will not be carried alone.


1:09 PM on May 9, 2009

Virginia and Margaret, I am thinking of you and all your family with love. Mother's Day weekend must be especially hard. 

Sending you much love, always, in remembrance of your fine son and nephew. Nancy DSN

Aunt Margaret

9:56 PM on April 18, 2009

Henry: I will always remember your last words to me on January 20, 2003, the last time we spoke: I love you, Titi Margi. My dear sweet nephew, thank you for giving me that memory. And thank you for being such a wonderful part of my life. Always and forever, I love you, Henry.


11:09 AM on April 15, 2009

Henry my darling son, You are always in my heart and I love you so much. I miss your smile and your hugs. There is not one day that 

I don't think of you because you are part of me. Love you Mom

Joseph Ruiz

5:44 PM on April 6, 2009

Hi Poco. I just wanted to say hello. I was thnking about you (as I so often do) Love Always-Uncle Joey

Bryan C. Murray

8:27 PM on April 4, 2009

Henry we've shared so many laughs that both of us were probably too young to remember...but that doesn't make them any less powerful. 

rest in peace my friend rest in peace.. Bryan

Fr. Tom Lynch

2:27 PM on January 31, 2009

Another anniversary of day that took our breath away. While Virginia and family learn to breathe again, it is simply not the same. Henry's anniversary is day to remember that while we live and breathe here, what awaits us all is a new day, a new breath, a new, resurrected life. While we then continue to walk with grief, that is our breathing has been altered and affected, we trust and we know that we will walk one day with a new breath. God Bless you Virginia as we all join you in remembering Henry. Thanks for the powerful witness you give to all of us. Love, Fr. Tom

Aunt Margaret

3:00 PM on January 24, 2009

My dear and sweet Henry--it is now 6 years without you. It is another year without feeling your hugs and seeing that smile of yours. Nonetheless, you are so ever present in our hearts and we will love you forever and a day. PS: I am sure our darling dog,Gizmo, has found you. He loved you so, too, Now, you and he are together once again. Sending blessings and hugs to Max, Carlo, and Andrew, too! Love always, your Titi Margi

Aunt Devika

7:34 AM on January 24, 2009

Dear Henry: Happy Anniversary in Heaven!

Uncle Joey

7:26 AM on January 24, 2009

"Now those memories come back to haunt me, They haunt me like a curse. Is a dream a lie, if it don't come true Or is it something worse, That sends me down to the river Though I know the river is dry" Dear Poco: It doesn't seem possible that it has been 6 years since that horrible day. We miss you so much. May God always bless and be with you (Andrew, Carlo & Max)

Nancy, Drowning Support Network

3:00 AM on January 24, 2009

Dearest Virginia, You and your darling Henry are in my thoughts and prayers as yet another anniversary of his passing arrives. 

I hope that the day passes with peaceful remembrance and meaning. With love, Nancy Drowning Support Network

Virginia "Mom"

12:20 AM on January 24, 2009

Henry, I would lay it all down for you to have you back in my life, to feel your embrace. You will always be with me in my heart. God bless 

you and keep my love locked in your heart. Love your Mom Virginia 1-24-09

Claudia Ewers

3:13 PM on January 15, 2009

Virginia~Just wanted to check in to let you know that I've been thinking of you during this sad time of year. I will be out of town through the rest of the month without internet access so before leaving, I wanted to send you my wishes for a lot of love in your life and kindness too. And I hope that the 24th passes gently and kindly for you too as you feel the spiritual essence of Henry all around you! . Much love, Claudia----from DSN


7:28 PM on January 14, 2009

This is my first visit to this wonderful memorial. Henry, we met only a few times, and you are close to my son's age and so your Mom and I shared many stories about parenting boys. Because of this, I feel like I knew you very well. Your Mom is a special lady who I am learning new things from every day.

 God bless you. Pat

Uncle Joey

12:37 PM on December 27, 2008

Dear Poco. Merry "Belated" Christmas in Heaven

Titi Margi

12:28 PM on December 25, 2008

My sweet angel in Heaven: Merry Christmas, Henry. I know you are looking down and smiling at all the lights shining in your honor. Together with Granddad and Uncle Petie, I know also that the lights in heaven are twinkling even brighter today! I will love you always! Your aunt who carries your love in her heart, 

Titi Margi


10:38 AM on December 25, 2008

Henry, You are my soul and inspiration in life. Merry Christmas in Heaven. The house is decorated beautifully in your honor. Christmas was always 

one of your favorite holidays. I remember you serving the midnight mass and how proud I was of you. I love you always and miss you each and every day. 

Love in always in my heart, Your Mom here and always


10:06 PM on November 27, 2008

Henry my darling son, Happy Thanksgiving in Heaven. Today we had a special thanksgiving with Grandma, Titi Margie, Uncle Lee, Uncle Donnie, Aunt Devika and Uncle Joey. You were in our hearts along with Grandad. Every thanksgiving and everyday I give blessings for having you in my life. Tell Grandad I miss him so much. Love Mom

 Uncle Joey

11:33 AM on November 27, 2008

Hello, Poco. Happy Thanksgiving in Heaven. Give Grandpop a hug from me. Forever in our hearts!

Titi Margi

9:32 PM on November 26, 2008

My dear sweet Henry--Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day. Thank you for all the memories you left us. The memories of your hugs, your smiles, your love. Thank you for leaving us the memory of you. With all my love and thanks! Your aunt who misses you.

Cary Perez

7:08 PM on November 17, 2008

Your mother and I were young and crazy. Yet I knew then that she would become a great mom. She was loving, kind and accepting of others. 

Was this normal growing up in NYC in the 60s?? God bless you!

Dorothy Gines

11:34 AM on November 10, 2008

Happy Birthday Henry, I will always remember the special ways your mother celebrated your birthdays here on earth and I can only imagine how special they must be in Heaven as you celebrate with your Grandfather, Midnight and your three friends that crossed with you and all the love ones in your family that are in heaven. You are so special and I feel privileged to know you and I know someday I will see you in Heaven and I will be able to give you a big hug. Until we meet in Heaven. I love you and I will never forget you Henry. With Love Always, Dorothy

Claudia Ewers

11:25 PM on November 7, 2008

Virginia~Just wanted you to know I visited Henry's memorial site again, and it blessed me and gave me peace as it always does. Your love and gratitude for Henry always shines so brightly, and your strength, hope, and faith inspire me in my own grief journey too. Love, Claudia (Mike's forever mom & DSN member)

Kevin Urquhart

9:19 AM on November 7, 2008

Virginia, your love and strength inspire all of us who have the honor of knowing you. Henry, happy birthday!


12:19 AM on November 7, 2008

Henry, As time has passed, your departure from us still feels surreal. Happy 23rd Birthday. Although we wish we could celebrate this special day with you, I know you're up in heaven partying up with the rock stars. We miss you and hold you close to our hearts always! God Bless You Cuz! Love, Rosie & Fam. Dated for 11-5-08

Vicky (your cousin)

1:19 PM on November 6, 2008

visited the website today and I love what you wrote for Henry, so touching. The pictures bring back sweet memories. I remember you always 

threw great birthday parties for him. Happy Birthday cuz! I love you always. God Bless you.

Cameron Whitley

9:40 AM on November 6, 2008

Your mother is such a wonderfully amazing woman. Her warmth and passion for your life is beautiful. I feel honored to share the same birthday as you.

 Happy Birthday. Cam

Fr. Tom Lynch

9:23 AM on November 6, 2008

Virginia, you continue to inspire so many of us..."I don't ask why anymore, I say thank you" that beautiful and painful statement comes from a rich spirituality and a deep love that goes on forever. Thank you on Henry's birthday and thank you everyday. Love, Fr. Tom


5:13 AM on November 6, 2008

Love to a boy I never met who is so significant to me.

Herb Hill

12:54 AM on November 6, 2008

Happy Birthday, Henry!

Michele and Kevin

11:35 PM on November 5, 2008

Happy Birthday Henry. Your mom recently visited us in our home and we shared many of your stories and memories. She is very special to all of us and your spirit lives on in her. To many more years of sharing your loving spirit. Feliz Cumpleanos, Michele & Kevin


10:46 PM on November 5, 2008

Vigi, Your tribute to Henry gets more beatifil every day! I just love watching the videos... The boundless amounts of love in each of these time capsules are a precious gift indeed. Thanks for sharing them with us. Happy Birthday, Henry! Sandra!


4:38 PM on November 5, 2008

Happy 23rd Birthday Henry!

roz paaswell

4:35 PM on November 5, 2008

Virginia -- you are an inspiration to us all. Your strength and the life you have continued to build do great honor to your son and to all of us.

Eric Tejeda

10:58 AM on November 5, 2008

Happy Birthday Henry! You are truly missed!!! Virginia - Your beautiful tribute continues to be inspirational. God bless you and your family. - Eric Tejeda


9:47 AM on November 5, 2008

Dear Henry, Happy Birthday! Although I never get to meet you in person, but I feel that I know you more and more by looking at the wonderful 

videos your mom had showed me. Have a great birthday Henry! Love, Linda


8:55 AM on November 5, 2008

My darling son Henry, May God bless you and have a great birthday in heaven. You are always in my heart and I think of you with so much pride and love that I was your Mother. Enjoy your day with Grandad, your uncle Peter and the rest of the family. You are my soul. Love Mom 11-5-2008

Auntie Devika

6:40 AM on November 5, 2008

Happy Birthday Henry. God bless you and your family.

Uncle Joey

6:38 AM on November 5, 2008

"Oh very young, what will you leave us this time? Will you carry the words of love with you? Will you ride the great white bird into heaven? And though you want to last forever; you know you never will. And the goodbye makes the journey harder still." - Cat Stevens Happy Birthday, Poco. I can't believe it has been 23 years since you were born. It seems like only yesterday that Devika and I travelled out to Jersey City to see and hold you for the first time. Time does not heal all wounds. It only dulls the pain. We love and miss you very much.

Titi Margi

12:01 AM on November 5, 2008

Today is your 6th Birthday in Heaven! Today, November 5, you would have been 23 years old, my dear Henry. How I have missed you! Not a day goes by that I do not think of you. The newly posted videos of you make me both smile and cry. I can close my eyes and see you laughing and talking and running and playing. I do remember your Michael Jackson days! You loved his music and would listen to all his videos and tapes. Then, of course, when you got older you tried to deny your fan days. However, we had you on tape! How we laughed about that one. We have some great memories of you and they will last our lifetimes. I wish so much we could have had more time with you but God wanted you more. I will close my eyes today and kiss you and hold you tight. Be well in the heavens. Shine bright and guard over us. I love you, as always. Happy Birthday! Your aunt who will always hold you close in her heart, Margi

Karen Jenkins

7:34 PM on November 4, 2008

May God bless and comfort you on this birthday of your precious Angel Henry. My prayers and blessings to you and your family.


9:10 AM on October 31, 2008

I didn't know your son but stumbled on this page looking for cat makeup for my daughter's Halloween costume today. I was touched very much by your web site and I just wanted you to know that now me...a stranger has been touched by your son Henry and the love that you all obviously had for him. I am so sorry for your great loss too. Peace to you and yours. May God be with you and grant you a peace that passes all understanding. With love from Oklahoma!


6:58 AM on October 23, 2008

thinking of you and Henry such a beauiful young man so sorry for your loss you did i great job on his web site Norma

Vincent Brevetti

3:20 PM on October 11, 2008

Hi Virgina, Thinking of Henry and you and the family. All the best. Vincent Brevetti

Uncle Joey

3:46 PM on October 10, 2008

Poco. The videos remind me of how cute & precocious you were. If I had been lucky enough to have a son, I'd wanted him to be exactly like you. 

Bless you. Watch over your Mother. Missing you forever

Vicky (your counsin)

11:01 AM on October 10, 2008

Titi Vigi, Good morning! How are you? Just wanted to pass by and say hello and that I love you. I looked through each and every video you posted on Henry's website. I laughed so much. From the pie eating contest, to him "hating girlfriends", to you guys acting in the Star Trek @ Universal Studios, to his Michael Jackson dance moves. What beautiful memories. You are so great, and I love you very much. Thanks for sharing the videos. It gives me a chance to get to know Henry all over again, and see all the fun he had. It gives me ideas of things to do with Bianca . I joined the site, and admire the person you are, and the strength you behold. God, along with Henry are looking down onto you always. You have a guardian angel. - Cousin Vicky (sending you hugs, and juicy kisses)


5:15 AM on October 8, 2008

Virginia, what a character your Henry was! It was truly wonderful to watch those amazing videos - so many wonderful memories to revisit. 

Loved Michael Jackson! Hugs, Karen ( DSN ) and mum of Sam

Claudia Ewers

12:33 AM on October 8, 2008

Virginia~I just finished watching the wonderful videos you added to Henry's memorial site. It's obvious by them that Henry did live a full and fun life and gave so much love and, of course, was loved so much too. The video of him and you right before his 3rd birthday is so full of love and joy---a very beautiful mommy with her darling little boy. And the Star Trek one-----thought of my own Mike-----he was such a Trekkie fan too. You show many beautiful memories of wonderful times here----and I'm so honored to have been able to view them tonight. Love, Claudia (Mike's mom from DSN)

serena nathan

10:33 PM on October 7, 2008

Virginia these are such gorgeous videos of Henry! How special to have them, thanks for sharing them with us. Hugs, serena (dsn, rory's mum) ps that one where Rosie gives him extra cream for "attitude" is too cute.

Titi Margi

7:41 PM on October 6, 2008

My dear sweet Henry: Today, October 6, marks 15 years since Granddad left us to wait for you in heaven. We thought of you and him today and know that you were both smiling down at us. We are sad that you are both gone from us but, at the same time, we are happy that you are together with God.


7:33 PM on August 20, 2008

I was just thinking about Henry and got inspired to look him up. I really appreciate that his family, whom all obviously loved him so much, took the time to make his pictures and stories available for everyone, forever. He was wonderful and his memory lives on in us all. Thank you for doing this. It means a lot to me to be able to remind myself what an amazing person he was. He is dearly missed by everyone.

Virginia "Mom"

11:55 PM on July 28, 2008

Pop, You are so loved not just by me but all those who you left behind. You are always in my mind and heart. You made me who I am today. 

For that I say "Thank You". I love you always, Your Mom 7-26-08

Joseph Ruiz

8:03 AM on July 25, 2008

"If a man can bridge the gap between life and death, if he can live on after he's dead, then maybe he was a great man. The only greatness for man is immortality. " James Dean Dear Poco: Your Titi Margi has expressed how we all feel. I am certain that you would've grown into a fine, young Man. While you may have left us in body, your spririt & soul will live in our hearts forever. - From your loving Uncle Joey

Titi Margi

4:57 AM on July 24, 2008

My dear boy: Some recent happenings made me think about how important you were and are to our family. You were part of the heart of ours. You loved us and we loved you so very much. You passing saddened us greatly but it made us stronger as a family. That is a tremendous legacy to leave and for that, we thank you. Sending you love up to the heavens!

Claudia Ewers

12:31 PM on May 26, 2008

Virginia~Thinking of you and Margaret today as you remember Henry on this another Memorial Day. I know that you carry Henry with you always and forever, and I'm glad you felt peace and calm on the 19th this year. Sending you wishes for much love and peace today and always, Claudia

Joseph Ruiz

9:21 AM on May 24, 2008

Dear Poco. I meant to post this a few days ago, but I just wanted to take time to remember the day you came home to your family. I remember the conflicting emotions I felt on that day. I was glad that those who loved you, especially your Mother would be able to achieve a measure of closure, but I was also extremely saddened. The realization that we would never, ever see you in this world again, hit me like a hammer. Once when you were a small boy, you came and sat on my lap, while I was watching tv. It's one of my most pleasant memories of you. Unfortunately, as you grew older, we were not as close, which is something that I deeply regret. It's true that you never realize how much you love someone until they have been taken away from you. 

Take care & watch over my family

Serena Nathan

9:45 PM on May 22, 2008

My thoughts are with you....Virginia this is a very beautiful poem, your words shared their calm with me too. love, serena.


11:40 PM on May 19, 2008

Henry, Today I felt peace, I felt calm I felt you I love you. I wish I could touch you but I know that one day I will be with you I miss you. 

You're always with me, everywhere I go You are always in my heart Love Mom 5-19-08


12:06 AM on May 19, 2008

My dear Henry: On this day, 5 years ago, the waters rose and gave you back to us to lay you to rest nearby. We never will stop loving you, Henry. You will always be cherished and adored. We will laugh and cry thinking of all you were and all you would have been. The years have softened the edges of our pain but the core of it, the loss of you, will never go away. Sending a kiss and smile to the heavens, sweet nephew. I will love you forever. Titi Margi

Claudia Ewers

3:37 PM on May 16, 2008

I wrote on Henry's website earlier today, but I'm sending Mike's website link again because I think I put an extra space in it! Best Wishes Always

 and Always~ for love, healing, and peace ~Claudia

Claudia Ewers

3:08 PM on May 16, 2008

I've been to Henry's memorial site many times and have left a few messages in the past. I know this time a year is hard----Just got through Mother's Day, myself, and then comes Memorial Day----and I have my Mike's memorial anniversary coming up, too, in June----I FINALLY took your lead and created a memorial website for Mike too. Here is the website link if anyone would like to visit Mike too------ Sending my love always, Claudia (Mike's mom)


8:02 PM on May 11, 2008

Dearest Henry: You are the reason we celebrated Mother's Day today with one of the best mothers we have ever known: your Mom. Know that we thought of you today and when we embraced your Mom we embraced you, too. Smile with our love. Your aunt who keeps you close to her heart, always Titi Margi


11:01 AM on May 11, 2008

Because of You I knew what love was Missing you on Mother's Day You will be with me forever Always in my heart Mom 5-11-2008

Sally Jo

6:17 PM on May 2, 2008

Dear Virginia, I know that you loved him very much and always tried to do the best for him. I think of you often. Sally Jo


11:16 PM on March 23, 2008

I don't know why I thought of him. I still don't get it. I don't think I ever will be able to make peace with it.

Titi Margi

7:40 PM on March 23, 2008

My dear nephew, Henry: I felt your smile today. Sending you hugs and love across the heavens!


9:06 AM on March 21, 2008

hello,my name is becky and I went to elementary school with Henry ever since kindergarten.I found the website just by trying to find pictures of holy family and came across a picture of Henry which led to the link of this website.I was looking through the pictures and saw the ninja turtles party,i'm in there with the black shirt,and cried because i remember that party like it was yesrerday.i wasn't as close to Henry as many other people,but from what i remember he was very kind, funny and extremely smart.I know you're in heaven watching over everyone. R.i.P. Much love, Rebecca


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10:50 PM on March 10, 2008


Marie Valentinetti

12:44 AM on March 10, 2008

Virginia this is my second time visiting this beautiful website you and Margie have created in memory of your son Henry. The first time I was so overcome with emotion, I felt I had to say something very profound and deep. I pray for Henry and all of you often. I am proud to say you are my friend. You are so loving and courageous. Henry's life and accomplishments are a shining example to be set before many young men. God Bless you all. Love Marie


3:15 PM on February 28, 2008

I was so saddened to read about this story yesterday. I grew up in the East Bronx from 1961 to 1978. I was only 10 when my dad drowned at a Long Island beach. I prayed very hard for the boys last night. Take comfort that the Lord keeps them close to Him, and that we will all be reunited one day.


9:23 PM on January 28, 2008

Dearest Virginia and Margaret, it does not seem possible that Henry and the other lads have been gone for five years. It breaks my heart to think of these lives cut short, and the pain you must endure in the shadow of so much tragedy. Know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Nancy Drowning Support Network

Vicky, your cuz

4:14 PM on January 24, 2008

5 years have passed, and it seems like yesterday. You are forever loved and thought of. Your mom celebrates your life everyday in everything 

she does. We love you always.


2:40 PM on January 24, 2008

Dear Henry:Where in the world has five years gone ?Five years since you and your good friends left this world to be in heaven together forever,ever so young and breaking the hearts of all who loved you,especially your incredible mom and dad,and titi Margi ,and grandma and everyone else who miss you so much. Henry,I know you are watching over your mom and visiting her,in her dreams, and always waking moments too,please take good care of her and all your loved ones.I know you do and will God bless you and Max,Carlo and Andrew too.RIP young men,watch over your loved ones until and hopefully many years from now they join you in heaven,and all are reunited there forever. Love,Uncle Lee

Sharon Bell

2:21 PM on January 24, 2008

Thinking of you on this date. You are in my prayers.


11:14 AM on January 24, 2008

My dearest, forever in my heart, Henry: Five years ago, I last hugged you. Five years ago, I last spoke to you and told you, "I love you". Five years ago, the impossible happened: you were taken from us. And our world has never been the same. We honor you each day of our lives by remembering all the hugs, all the love, all the kisses. You will forever be the little boy turned young man who stole our hearts and forever captured our love. Love, Titi Margi REST IN PEACE, HENRY, MAX, CARLO, AND ANDREW!

dorothy gines

9:06 AM on January 24, 2008

Hi Poco, It's been 5 years since your journey to heaven and I know your mom misses you even more. Keep visiting her in her dreams. Let her 

know that you are always by her side. You will always be in my prayers and in my heart. Love Dorothy

Chanardai Sookdeo-Ruiz

6:39 AM on January 24, 2008

Happy Anniversary in Heaven, Henry. We miss and love you very much. "Auntie Devika"

Joseph Ruiz

6:37 AM on January 24, 2008

"Now there's tears on the pillow, where we slept, And you took my heart when you left." -Bruce Springsteen Dear Poco: It seems more like 5 minutes than 5 years have come and gone since you were stolen from us. You've left a space in our lives that can never be filled. Rarely a day passes, when I don't think about you. Watch over your Mother. She has carried a pain and burden that I would not wish on anyone. With much love & affection "Uncle Joey


12:18 AM on January 24, 2008

Henry, On this day I will remember your love in my heart. I love and miss you dearly. May God keep you near until I join you. I love you Mom 1/24/2008

Fr. Thomas Lynch

10:49 AM on January 23, 2008

How in the world could it be 5 years? Virginia, please be assured of my prayers throughout the day. May you know the peace and love of the 

Lord now and forever. Hang in ther my good friend. Love Fr. Tom


2:05 AM on January 19, 2008

I am so very sorry for your loss. Your son, Henry's pictures are just lso lovely. I can see such warmth and love in his eyes. I know your heart is aching and I am so sorry. I wish there was a way that we could have dreamed this nightmare too. I also lost my son, my only child, Shane, he was 27, it's been 6 years and I continue to grieve and miss him so very much, I am very sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you. I was looking for the picture of Jesus you have on your site to give to a mother who lost her son, Shane too, just in this past Dec and that is how I found you. God Bless you and give you His comfort and strength. If you would ever like to email, pls know I welcome your email. You can visit my son too at: I am in the process of moving my site, so if you use the pull down button it will bring you to all the pages.


2:08 AM on January 6, 2008

I knew Henry through friends in highschool, I remember him being incredibly handsome. Me and my 2 best friends all had crushes on him. This will always affect me. All my prayers and love go to his mother and family

Chanardai Sookdeo-Ruiz

9:13 PM on December 25, 2007

Dear Henry. Merry Christmas in Heaven. Love Auntie Devika

Joseph Ruiz

9:10 PM on December 25, 2007

"When I'm down and feelin' blue I close my eyes so I can be with you Oh, baby, be strong for me Baby, belong to me Help me through Help me need you Until the morning sun appears Making light of all my fears I dry the tears I've never shown Out here on my own" -Michael & Lesley Gore Merry Christmas, Poco. We miss you so much. With Deep Love & Affection. -Uncle Joey


12:18 AM on December 25, 2007

Poco, pop, poppy, those were the affectionate names that I use to call you. Christmas was always so special to us, not just the toys but the whole spirit of love, family and togetherness. I miss that dearly. This is my 5th Christmas without you but I want you to know that I light our house so you can see from heaven my love for you still lights up my life. I love and miss you dearly. Merry Christmas in Heaven. You are always part of me as I am of you. 

Love Always Your Mom 12-25-2007


11:59 PM on December 24, 2007

My dear sweet Henry: Merry Christmas in Heaven! The stars in the skies and the lights ablaze on earth shine as everlasting tribute of our love for you!

 Thinking of you today and always! Love from your aunt who holds you in her heart forever!

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Gwen Simms

5:43 PM on December 12, 2007

:wink: I am so touched with what you have done in memory of your son!!!!!! :D Luk wil Am (Very Good in our language!) Our family is trying to cope with the recent death of our nephew. He would have turned 22 this October 31st, 2007. He is so sadly missed by his mom, (my sister) his sister (my neice) and his grandparents on both sides. He joined his dad on August 25th, 2007. The pain is so great, thank you for the words that you have chosen for your son's site, 

it will definitely provide comfort and encouragement to those of us left behind. God Bless!

alicia guzman

10:32 AM on December 2, 2007

wow? what can i say, after overseeing the memory of one special person, whom i gathered capthered alot of peoples hearts..I was so blowed away when i saw Henrys younger days pictures, it was like looking at my son Joey when he was little..They look so much alike, it brought me back in time..Today my son is 33yrs old with a family of his own..Also to think Henry was almost born on my birthday which is on Dec 10. Henry is with God.. I never knew Henry, but after reading and overlooking at his life style, I feel somehow deep down inside I know he was so loved by all.. God bless you........ 



10:07 PM on November 22, 2007

My sweet nephew, Henry: I thought about you today. Thank you for the memories and thank you for all the love and hugs you gave me. 

Loving you forever, and a day Titi Margi Thanksgiving Day 2007


3:30 PM on November 22, 2007

Missing you on this special day of Thanksgiving. I thank God that I was blessed to be your Mother and love you unconditionally. I know you are having a feast with Grandpa, your greatgrandmothers, your uncle Peter and others you has joined you. I love you and miss you. Love your Mom 11-22-07


10:14 AM on November 20, 2007

Happy Belated Birthday, Poco. My birthday wish is late, but never my prayers for you and your family. Everyday that passes; I include you and your family in my prayer list. Your mother is a tower of strength; it is an honor to know her and to have known you. You and your family will always occupy a special place in my heart. With Sincere Love - Dorothy


8:25 AM on November 18, 2007


Terri Gould

11:15 AM on November 17, 2007

Dear Henry: I did not know you as others have known you. I met you a couple of times and would see the sweetness and gentle hearted young boy you seemed. I now have a son that resembles those very things I saw in you when I met you and I so cherish him and thank God each day for what He has given me. I celebrate your life and I know you are with God and the angels and now my Mom whom knew you well. Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!! Love, Terri and family

Vicky (your cousin)

11:03 AM on November 17, 2007

:) Mycousin, Happy belated birthday! Your memory is so vivid, you are so loved...I am so inspired by your mother, she is so wonderful. The last passage she wrote to you is absolutely beautiful. I love you very much and always will. You are precious! I wish Bianca could have met you, she would have been so crazy about you. Love you much, your cousin Vicky

Linda Tsoi

4:58 PM on November 15, 2007

Henry, I wish you a happy belated birthday. I'm sorry I send this message a little late. Your mother is a very strong and incredible woman and

 I'm so proud of her. She inspires me every day. Vigi, my warmest wishes to you and your family. Love, Linda

C. Whitley

9:53 AM on November 13, 2007

Happy 22nd Birhtday Henry. I wasn't lucky enough to have met you, but I feel as though we have connected as your mother has shared so many wonderful stories with me. I feel so honored that Nov 5th is also my birthday. This year, I took a moment to pray that God continues to keep you and your mother in his heart and that you are reminded each day of how much you are loved, respected and charished by so many. C. Whitley

Kevin Urquhart

1:17 PM on November 12, 2007

I join your mother, family and friends in wishing you a happy 22nd birthday. Your mother is an inspiration to all of us.

Eric Tejeda

10:16 AM on November 12, 2007

Happy Belated Birthday Henry. Your mother continues to celebrate your life with us through this beautiful tribute. We miss you. - Eric Tejeda


9:00 AM on November 12, 2007



11:31 PM on November 11, 2007

Virginia:I just read your loving tribute to Henry on his 22 nd .birthday and I am honored and grateful to be a part of your family as you and Ana and my dear wife Margi and everyone else who was and is still touched by the wonderful presence of Henry once again came through so powerfully in your moving writings about him. You are an incredible woman as his was an incredible child,taken so young ,but as you so eloquently said in heaven now with your dad and brother and in peace ;and yes most certainly looking after you and his loved ones,and knowing he would want you to be happy here in this earthly world. My heart goes out and I stop and realize although you,and the family have gone through the very worst thing that could possibly beset a family ,faith in God,your strength in that faith ,remembering the good times,knowing have fast life goes by,your love and kindness to all you touch,and most of all that darling boy/man HENRY are seeing you through until sometime which I hope is a long time from you will deservedly join HENRY and your dad in heaven. 

God bless you and the family-Love,Lee


11:09 PM on November 11, 2007

I was just at the web site. It is so moving. I read your most recent letter - and others -- they are so beautiful. I get choked up reading your 

letters and looking at the photos. Your love for Henry is everlasting. I hope you are doing well. Best always. Jay


11:08 PM on November 11, 2007

Virginia, Thank you so much for your beautiful writings....I always love to read what you have to say to Henry....I wish I could be as graceful as you are. Know that we think about all of you often, and will keep you in a special place in my heart as the fifth anniversary rolls around....I can hardly believe it has been that long....seems like a life time to you, I am sure.


12:45 AM on November 11, 2007

Henry, Happy belated birthday to you. You have brought so much happiness and love that your mother continues to share with us. We are greatful 

to have your spirit and strength living on within her and the rest of your family. With love, Kevin & Michele


10:03 AM on November 10, 2007

Dearest Virginia, I will always remember the time in New York that I shared with you and four other mothers whose children had all was the most extraordinary and moving day. I think of you and Henry sometimes, but today I thought I would tell you. With much much love Penny (mother of Daniel)

Serena Nathan

3:39 AM on November 10, 2007

Dear Virginia and Family, thinking of you at this time of Henry's 22nd Birthday (and sorry this message is late)and sending warmest 

wishes to you all, Serena, DSN.


11:20 AM on November 9, 2007

Henry's birthday has just passed, and I wanted to send you an extra special hug, Virginia. Your strength and courage are an inspiration to me. Please know that you are often in my thoughts. And give my love to your amazing sister, Margaret, please. Sending you both lots of love and extra support. 

Nancy Drowning Support Network

Claudia Ewers

1:40 PM on November 7, 2007

Thinking of you today and revisiting this wonderful website in honor and memory of Henry. It always gives me a lot of peace to come here to honor the wonderful young person that Henry was. I hope his 22nd birthday passed gently for you with lots and lots of wonderful memories of Henry. Love, 

Claudia (from DSN)


12:06 PM on November 7, 2007

Thinking of Henry and of you and your family as the calendar turns to another significant day and brings the holiday season closer...a time that 

I am sure brings with it so many memories. You are all in my prayers, as always.


9:25 AM on November 7, 2007

Dear Vigi, What a beautiful page! Although I know Henry is with us in spirit it would have been great to have him near us physically 

to celebrate his 22nd birthday with a huge party! Happy Birthday Henry!!!


1:21 AM on November 7, 2007

Dear Virginia, What a beautiful tribute. Henry was very fortunate to have had you for a mother. Happy Birthday to Henry! Fondly, Joe


12:35 AM on November 7, 2007

Very touching, Vigi! You, Henry and your family were in my thoughts and prayers Monday. Happy Birthday, Henry! Your beautiful tribute continues to grow.


12:30 PM on November 6, 2007

Happy Birthday to my honorary nephew. I can't believe it's been 5 years since you been gone.


10:21 PM on November 5, 2007

Dearest Virginia: Happy birthday to your sweet son, Henry. I'm sorry this message is so late in getting to you...its been one of those days for me...I read your letter to your son and it was absolutely beautiful. May you find some sort of peace today and I hope your son Henry had a fantastic birthday party in heaven today. Lisa


9:49 PM on November 5, 2007

Dear Virginia, You are by far the strongest women I know. I wish you the best through any and all hard times. I look at you as my second mother, a woman who has always cared for me and loved me as her son, and I love you for that. I will keep you and Henry in my prayers. Stay strong.


8:56 PM on November 5, 2007

Dear Virginia, My thoughts and prayers go out to you on this day. Just know that we all will be thinking of you. Patsy


8:37 PM on November 5, 2007

Virginia, I will be thinking of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I will be thinking about your precious son Henry. Kim --- [email protected]

Karen Lynn Jenkins

8:33 PM on November 5, 2007

Dearest Virginia: Your letter to Henry started me to weeping and painfully realize that I am you and you are me. We all grieve so deeply, we have so made efforts to go forward and to cope but underneath we are so burned by the pain and sorrow. God bless you dear one. May He grant to you comfort, peace of mind and heart and some signs from your precious Angel Henry. Karen Lyn Jenkins Mother to an Angel with Pink Wings Geoffrey P. Edwards, Beloved Son

Nidia Rodriguez

8:23 PM on November 5, 2007

Happy Birthday Henry! Today you are celebrating with your loved ones, listening to the beautiful songs of angels, and in the presence of a kind, compassionate and loving God. You will always be in our thoughts and hearts. Till we see each other again, rejoice!

Fr. Tom Lynch

8:23 PM on November 5, 2007

My prayers and thoughts are with you today as you celebrate the birth of Henry. How time flies. Your letter to Henry was inspiring and beautiful. I am very happy that you came to OLA for the All Souls Day Mass. It was also good to see your mom, Henry and Mia and your cousin. Thanks for your wonderful example. Thanks for your love for Henry which lights up the world. God Bless you now and always, FrTom

Chanardai Sookdeo-Ruiz

11:50 AM on November 5, 2007

Happy Birthday, Henry. We miss you. Love Auntie Devika

Joseph Ruiz

11:48 AM on November 5, 2007

Dear Poco. Unfortunately, you left us on the cusp of adulthood. I will forever cherish the memory of a sweet young boy and mourn for the man that was never meant to be. Happy Birthday & lots of love. Uncle Joey

Virginia Badillo

5:54 AM on November 5, 2007

Happy Birthday my darling son. You would have been 22 years old. It hard to believe that 5 years have passed since your death. Today I will celebrate

 your life. You were my gift in life and you will be my gift when I join my next life. I love you dearly, Always Your Mom 11-5-2007

Margaret Ruiz

1:18 AM on November 5, 2007

Dear Henry... Today you would have been 22 years old. I can almost see you as I imagine what your life would be like now. Growing into full adulthood. Maturing. Living and loving life. But, that cannot be. I could be sad for what we miss every day that you are not here but instead, I choose to be happy for every minute of the barely 17 years that you were with us. You gave us joy, smiles, and lots of love. Enough to give us a lifetime of memories. We will love you always! Happy Birthday, my sweet nephew. I will never forget you! Your aunt who holds you in her heart, Margi

Karen Jenkins

8:10 PM on November 3, 2007

Happy Birthday to your precious Angel Henry. What a beautiful boy he is. May Gpd bless and comfort you always.

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Send me your e-mail addy so I can make a graphic for you of your beautiful son.

Norma Studdard

2:38 AM on October 24, 2007

sweet little Angel for your pain is no longer your smile is like the sunshine i know u dance with Angels and a how beauiful that must be your wings as white a snow and soft a spring like brezze we miss you so i hope you and pray that you are happy for as the days draw near will all will be there to me you once more that is my wish and you won't be alone no more

Karen Jenkins

1:53 PM on October 14, 2007

What a beautiful, beautiful child. May God bless and comfort you on the loss of your precious Angel Henry. Our hearts will forever remain borken.


9:40 AM on October 14, 2007

Sleep sweet angel, for all is quiet now, Let my kiss rest upon your innocent brow, Your sweet smile lives in the warm summer sun Thoughts of you are comfort, when the day is done, The magic of your goodness dances in the autumn leaves. Your melody sings in the wind that, echoes through the trees. sleep my precious angel, forever you will shine the pure light of Love within this heart of mine. By Bee Ewing. May the Lord hold you close and comfort you along this journey of grief. My heart goes out to you for all you have suffered. Love Josh's Mom

Eve Badillo

1:05 AM on October 8, 2007

I lost my little girl when she was 2-1/2 years old in 1981. Your tribute to your son touched me very much, not to mention we share the same last name. Mine is my maiden name. We do not know each other, but I understand your every word and emotion. My love and prayers, Eve

Claudia Ewers

10:17 PM on September 9, 2007

I somehow needed to revisit your website today for Henry. It always touches my heart deeply when I come here. The photos of Henry make the tragedy of your loss of him even more vivid in my mind, and my heart aches for his family. I shed a few tears yet again today as I revisited this beautiful site. Love, Claudia~DSN member and a mom who also lost her only son to drowning in 2003.


10:23 AM on August 18, 2007

Virginia and all of Henry's Family--I have just been visiting with the words and pictures that tell all about your special Henry, with tears as I read your 21st birthday letter to him Virginia, so beautiful. I just wanted you to know I stopped by and thank you for sharing your wonderful son. Sending love, 

Serena (DSN), Rory's Mum


12:59 AM on August 5, 2007

Your mom is such a beautiful and giving person. I admire the person that she is, and she is a role model to the family. I love you and was thinking about you... Your cuz, Vicky


11:01 PM on July 16, 2007

I heard your voice. My love is yours. I will not forget what we were together as Mother and child. You will be in my heart forever. I love you my son. 

God bless and hold you till I see you again. Love Mom

Fr. Tom

8:39 AM on May 21, 2007

Thinking of Henry these days and of Virginia. You are in my prayers. God Bless you and comfort you. Love, Fr. Tom

Virginia "Mom"

12:32 PM on May 20, 2007

To my son, Henry. There are no words that I can say to express my love for you. I think of you every day and pray that we will be reunited one day with God. I close my eyes and feel your hugs and hear you say I love you too Mom. I love you too with all my heart. You are my hero. You made me whole. Love always with my heart Mom


10:06 PM on May 19, 2007

Dear Henry, I did not know you, but only of you. In your pictures, your smile is always warm. The notes and pictures of your family show just how loved & missed you are. As a mother, I know there is no loss greater then losing a child. One day you will all be reunited in Heaven - until then your memory will stay alive through the love we all have for you.

Margaret Ruiz

12:20 PM on May 19, 2007

Dear Henry: Thinking of you today with tears in my eyes and a smile in my heart! Time will never dim my love for you, my sweet and 

adored nephew! Love, Titi Margi

Joseph Ruiz

11:29 AM on May 13, 2007

Dear Vigi; I know that it goes without saying, how difficult each and every "Mother's Day" must be for you. I can only imagine what the last few years have been like for you. I just want you know how much I love, respect and admire you. Happy Mother's Day. Forever in my heart. "Your loving brother"-Joey

Joseph Ruiz

6:54 PM on April 29, 2007

Hello, Poco. I just wanted to tell you that I was thinking of you. Missing you always- "Uncle Joey"

Linda Tsoi

7:53 PM on April 8, 2007

Virginia, thanks for inviting me to visit this beautiful website. It's a touching tribute to Henry. Although I did not have the opportunity to meet him, 

I'm sure he was and still is loved and missed by all his friends and family.

Virginia (Mom)

5:22 PM on February 14, 2007

Dear Henry, Happy Valentine's Day in Heaven. My love for you grows more each day. I know you feel my heart as I feel yours. 

I miss and love you! Love Mom February 14, 2007

Mary Childs

12:42 PM on January 28, 2007

[color=green]You continue to humble me, Vigi. Your strength, your devotion, your faith. You amaze me. I love you and am always here for you. I love you!

"Auntie" Gertie

10:23 AM on January 26, 2007

God Bless you, sweetie. I know your Grand Dad is looking after you!


10:58 PM on January 24, 2007


Virginia Ruiz-Badillo

10:21 PM on January 24, 2007

Your gentle and patient smile with sadness we recall You had a kindly word for each and died beloved by all The voice is mute and stilled the heart That loved us well and true Bitter was the trial to part from one so good as you You are not forgotten, my son nor will you ever be As long as life and memory last we will remember you We miss you now, are hearts are sore As time goes by, we miss you more Your loving smiles, your gentle face No one can take your vacant place Four boys, four years Time goes so fast Henry, Carlo, Max and Andrew You all are missed and loved by so many Love Mom, 1-24-2007


1:54 PM on January 24, 2007

Virginia and family - God bless you all. We'll not forget, and are here for you whenever you need a shoulder.


12:17 PM on January 24, 2007

Dear Dear Badillo Family, Our thoughts and prayers and love are with you and with Henry in heaven on this heartbreaking anniversary of his leaving us on earth. May God Bless you and may God Bless the lives that you are leading that honor his memory so lovingly and so well. We love you!

MIa and Dad

10:53 AM on January 24, 2007

My love and memories of you are strong and clear. With no effort you face, voice and smell of your hair comes into my thoughts everyday. Your sister and I explore and remember you and your likes of music, art poetry and schoolwork. We love you forever Mia and Dad

Margaret Ruiz

8:59 AM on January 24, 2007

To my forever adored nephew: Remembering you, Max, Carlo, and Andrew today. 4 years ago you left our lives but not our love.You are the light in our darkest days and we will always treasure the warm memories that each of you left in our hearts. With all my love, Titi (Aunt) Margi

Joseph Ruiz

12:34 AM on January 24, 2007

To My Nephew, Poco. Happy Anniversary in Heaven. No passage of time will ever diminish our sorrow or regret. We will love and miss you eternally.

 Your loving Uncle Joey